Word of the Day: Divorce

There are times in our lives when we experience something that changes our lives as we know it. A death in the family, a marriage, divorce. Three years ago, I experienced two of these life changing events. A death and a marriage. As my wife and I were planning for our wedding, my father (well, my step-father really, but he's been more of a father than my sperm donor) was very ill. A wedding is suppose to be one of the happiest moments in two peoples lives, but it was really hard to be happy when your father is literally dying. Now 3 years later, I'm getting a divorce.

Yes people, after 13 years of being with each other, my wife has decided that we can't be together anymore. I could sit here and explain how I wasn't caring enough, or I didn't talk enough, or treat her well, and got into arguments. I could talk about how I felt that this completely blindsided me, and how I never saw it coming. But I really wouldn't matter. I could blame her...talk about how I felt neglected by her. How she would rather have a deep conversations and hang out with the neighbor. I could talk about how she slept with the neighbor and hid it from me. How she created an elaborate scheme to get me to find out. But none of it matters. It's over.

Am I hurt...yes. Do I care, I'd be lying if I said it didn't. What honestly, what can I do? Nothing. I've talked, I've cried, I've done everything, and now it's over.

She's already found someone new. She's moved on. She's in love with someone else. Don't get me wrong, I still love her, but I have to let her go. I'm done with this. I can't keep hoping for something to happen, when I know nothing will come of it. I just hope that she can live with herself knowing what she's done to me. I hope he can live with himself knowing what he's done to me.

You can't say that I didn't make an effort. You can't say that I didn't try to work things out. But I can't do it by myself. So I hope you two can avoid the problems that you both had with your spouses, her with me, and him with ex.

Learn and make a better life for yourselves, but remember, Karma is a Bitch, and she will get hers.