Family, can't live with them, but what would you do without them?

Throughout our lives we have many decisions to make; who to be friends with, boyfriends, girlfriends, where to go to school, where to live, what kind of car to buy, shopping, clothing, all sorts of choices that we must make. It is with these choices that we live our lives, day in and day out. We have to deal with the consequences, whether good or bad, they are ours, and we have no one to blame but ourselves. However, one thing that we don't have a choice about is family.

Family is one of those things that we can't really do anything about, kind of like taxes and death. We can try and avoid them, but they're always there. We can run away, but they're always there. One of the things that I was dreading the most when the ex and I decided to go our separate ways was telling my family. I was ashamed of myself.

I didn't want to have to explain the situation. Explain the who, what, when, where, why and how to them. I didn't want to deal with it. Like I said, I was ashamed. I felt much of all that was happening was my fault. This is how I felt when this was happening. Eventually, after a good period of time, I was able to let my brothers know. They were the first in my family to know. I didn't want them to tell my mother, so I told them not to, I wanted to do it. My mom was out of the country at the time.

By the time she came back home, I was ready to tell her. By then I had already begun my process of accepting what happened. Was dealing with moving on and forward with my life. When I finally told her, she accepted my explanation and asked me what I wanted to do. When, she accepted my reasoning...my chosen course. This is why we can't live with them, but without them is out of the question. Love your family, and let them know you love them.