Over the years, in my very long relationship, I gained some weight. It happens in just about every long-term relationship I've seen. This isn't to say that it always happens, but I'll just say it happens more often than not. During my tenure with my ex I went from 160 to one 195 at my heaviest. Now I'm not blaming it on her, by far, I know it was me. Over the course of the years that we were together, we both over indulged ourselves with food and lack of physical activity. The pairing of the two did not go well together.
But, one great advantage of everything that has happened is that I've begun my transformation. I've gone from 195, my heaviest in December, back down to 169! I like to call it the Divorce/Break-up Diet! Its as if my body knows that its on the market again, and the 195 lbs, 25% body fat isn't attractive. Once I discovered the infidelity of my wife, and come to realize that there was no hope of saving the marriage, well my body went into the transitional stage that I'm in now. I began shedding the pounds, dropping my body fat percentage down to it's current 15%. I'm much more active now as well.
One of the great things that my ex introduced me to was The Bar Method. Now, just to be clear...I'm not getting any money to promote them or their studios. I just enjoy the classes, and I see results. It also doesn't hurt that the classes are primarily filled with women with great bodies! It helps to keep my motivated. OK, back to topic. Bar is a no-impact workout that focuses heavily on isometric contractions (exertion of force without a change in the length of the muscle or muscles exerting the force). Now I could go into details about all the benefits of the classes, but hey, if you want to know you can look it up.
Over the months, I've talked to a great many people about my situation, and I've heard from many back that they are also struggling with their relationships. Whether they're married, or just dating...it just seems that this isn't a good year for relationships. Well, at least for some people I know. Strange. However, one thing that I have noticed in common with these relationships, my own or others, everyone is in the divorce/breakup diet. My friends and I are trying to better ourselves, not for our partners or spouses. Not even for future partners, but for ourselves. I'm making changes for me. I'm making changes so I can live a healthier and more active lifestyle. One that I've been wanting to do, but have been held back.
So those out there going through a rough patch, get out there and get active. You don't have to go big, start small...maybe just walking for 20 minutes after dinner. Give yourself some me time, it's OK. Find things you always wanted to do and go do it. You don't have a partner to hold you back anymore...you're your own person living for yourself. See and feel your body change, and enjoy it for the better.
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