So I was driving to work the other day and happen to be listening to a morning show on the radio (don't ask which one, I don't remember). The topic of the morning was cheating. This was brought on by the how Wiener sexting scandal. The morning personalities were discussing what would/should constitute cheating. Of course they had callers calling in with varying opinions, kissing, sexting, hugging, sex...it ran the entire gambit.
So this topic got me thinking, what is cheating?
Now I can't say my answer will be the definitive answer that everyone agrees with, but hey it's going to be my answer (its my blog so there, like it or leave it).
I remembered when my ex and I first got together all those years ago...and we had this issue with cybering. Cybering was the chat room equivalent to sexting today, minus photos. One night in particular I got up and notice that she was on the computer...I went over and she was cybering with someone...at the time, I got crazy. I didn't understand why she was doing that, and I felt very hurt. So why do I bring this up? Simple. What I consider cheating then, isn't necessary what I consider it now.
As I mentioned in my previous post [Less Social, technology is making us.], "Communication is key to keeping any relationship going, whether its romantic or platonic." If you communicate with your partner and make clear what you each consider cheating, then much headache can be avoided down the road. Let's be honest, we and human beings do not and can not know what each other are thinking. Sure we can infer, but that's still just a guess. Talk it out, make sure you both know what each other consider cheating. A good rule of thumb...if you wouldn't tell them what you wrote...maybe you shouldn't write it.
I can look at flirting and sexting and all the other things that people do out there as cheating...but let's be honest. Many of us do this as part of our habit...but what are the intentions? and have you had this discussion with your partner. If you haven't, maybe you should.
So this topic got me thinking, what is cheating?
Now I can't say my answer will be the definitive answer that everyone agrees with, but hey it's going to be my answer (its my blog so there, like it or leave it).
I remembered when my ex and I first got together all those years ago...and we had this issue with cybering. Cybering was the chat room equivalent to sexting today, minus photos. One night in particular I got up and notice that she was on the computer...I went over and she was cybering with someone...at the time, I got crazy. I didn't understand why she was doing that, and I felt very hurt. So why do I bring this up? Simple. What I consider cheating then, isn't necessary what I consider it now.
As I mentioned in my previous post [Less Social, technology is making us.], "Communication is key to keeping any relationship going, whether its romantic or platonic." If you communicate with your partner and make clear what you each consider cheating, then much headache can be avoided down the road. Let's be honest, we and human beings do not and can not know what each other are thinking. Sure we can infer, but that's still just a guess. Talk it out, make sure you both know what each other consider cheating. A good rule of thumb...if you wouldn't tell them what you wrote...maybe you shouldn't write it.
I can look at flirting and sexting and all the other things that people do out there as cheating...but let's be honest. Many of us do this as part of our habit...but what are the intentions? and have you had this discussion with your partner. If you haven't, maybe you should.
Great Post as always.
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