Really? Trying to have her cake and east it too!

As I've mentioned previously, I'm dating someone new, and she its dating the guy that was "just a friend." Most nights she doesn't even come home anymore. Well on a recent night, my girlfriend leaves and she happens to come home. And a situation develops.

She's getting 60 of the 60/40 split on the equity if the house, but expects me to pay 50% of the mortgage. What's that all about? I tell get that I'm going to only pay 40% since that us how much I'll be getting when the use is sold...she flips. She  saying that it isn't fair. That I'm home more often than she is and I bring my girlfriend over etc. Hey, I never told her not to come home. I never told her to spend nights at his house. It's get choice not to come home. Right?

She goes on to talk about how I'm immature and a bastard, and asked when I'm going to grow up. I don't get this whole thing. She then starts to bring up things from the past about how debts aren't getting paid that were in her name before we were married, and how unfair it is that she is paying for them, and that debts were paid when we were married, etc, again...I'm confused. Lost again. Everyone I deal with her, she makes new feel like I'm this bad guy for standing top for myself.

I really don't understand her. Does she really expect me to just give her everything? Is that wheawhat I'm suppose to do?

Dating: Too Soon?

When should I start dating? How much time should pass? Should I wait for the "ink to dry," or get a head start now?

I was talking with a good friend of mine and he commented that I'm dealing with this whole thing pretty well. I've "recovered" (if I can use that word) quicker than he did, and that I look happy. I went on a couple of dates a while back, and I have to say I was nervous as a mother. Things, to me felt awkward, but much of that had to do with the fact that I hadn't been on a date is over a decade. I was dating someone new, and I'll be honest, I'm was much more comfortable with her, but again, I ask..."I'm I dating to early?" Is there a right or wrong time to start dating again, or does it just happen? Is there a time when I should start? Allow some time pass then get back up on that horse, or just be like the Nike slogan, Just Do It!

Well, I'm here to say that I thought I was going to wait...give it some time. However, life did not want my life to go that route. I'm dating someone...were taking it slow, but I'll say it serious. Serious enough for me to say that we're exclusive. I know, it's very soon...but hey, it just happened.